Category Signal Stories

I was not an accountant, but I had to tally that!

In 2001, my first year of MCA, Accountancy was one paper I had to pass. Coming from a Pharmacy background, it was quite challenging for me.

You know, when you’ve never failed any exam from school to college, there’s doubt and pressure—that weight on your shoulders to clear.

I won’t lie—in school days, when my friends prayed to clear their exams, I didn’t join them. I believed effort was what would matter to me personally.

But when doubt crept in, when fear made us question ourselves, we needed something… a positive signal to make us ‘Step up.’

I was looking for that signal before entering the exam gate and noticed a temple in the distance on a hillside—about 5 kms away. Instantly, I felt some positive vibes. I told myself: If I clear this exam, I’ll visit that hill temple.

I was sure I’d solved at least 2 problems well. Hope kept me moving forward.

Two months later, results came: 66/100 and top 10 in my class! 🙂

That weekend, I headed to keep my promise to myself.

As I neared the village and approached the ground, I realized something—it wasn’t a Murugan temple at all. It was a Jesus statue on the cross.

I paused for a moment.
It’s like my Head and Heart looking at each other. ✨

Then smiled and took my first step up the hill, with full gratitude.

That hill taught me:” The spark doesn’t need a name or definition”. 

It just needs to be recognized.

It became crystal clear:

That ‘Signal’—that invisible spark—cleared my mind long before the results arrived.

When fear dominates, we need something beyond logic.

We can’t always be at full energy. We can’t always stay motivated.

Sometimes life tests us, and to mindfully handle that, we need a signal that speaks to our hearts.

**To whoever is stuck or facing failure right now:**

Look for that signal.

“The signal is real.“

Some call it hope. 

Some call it faith. 

Some call it self-confidence. 

Some call it grace.

I’m not here to tell you what to call it.

I’m just here to tell you: ” It exists.”

And when fear dominates, use ‘fear as a filter’ to look out for the right signal.

It’s always there—sometimes as a thought, sometimes as a feeling, sometimes as a quote, a post, a story and sometimes as a person who believes in you when you don’t believe in yourself.

The spark shows up. You just have to pause, recognize it.

Finally, I thanked my Accounts Sir and trained myself to look for the right signal—and it’s always there.🌈

#SimpleSecrets #Hope #EmotionalIntelligence #Creative #Leadership

P.S: Edited with AI Assistants

When Fear Mislabeled Kindness (and What AI Can Teach Us About It)

A question from a 7-year-old that I couldn’t answer immediately.

“I tried to be nice to my friend, and they yelled at me. Why would they do that? I don’t want to help anymore.”

As a loving and responsible parent, what would you say?

I took a moment. And then a memory surfaced.

🕒 9:30 a.m. — Chennai, Anna Nagar. 2007

On my way to the office.

As usual, heavy traffic.

When people race with time,

“Heyyyy heyyyyi”

A bike hit a scooter.

An old man flew backward, his things scattering all over the road.

I stopped. I ran.

Before I could hold him, he was shouting:

“Don’t you have eyes? You hit me!”

And in that second — I froze.

From realization.

Oh God. The old man got the wrong signal.

I was — heart pounding, rushing to help — and he saw me as the threat.

“Periyavarea , it’s not me…”

But he couldn’t hear me.

His pain was speaking louder than my words.

He was terrified. His body hurt.

And pain had blurred his perception.

I stood quietly for a moment, watching others move him to a safe spot while I began collecting his scattered belongings.

This is what pain does to people.

Confusion makes us read signals differently

The old man got hit by a bike and thought I did it. That’s one pain.

But there’s another pain — deeper. A pain that teaches.

I got scolded while trying to help. Blamed for something I didn’t do. Rejected when I was offering care.

That hurt.

But that hurt was a signal — showing me that when people are scared, they misread everything.

When people are in crisis, facts doesn’t matter.

What that moment taught me,

I could’ve stayed hurt.

I could’ve said, “The world is unfair.”

But the old man taught me something I didn’t know I needed to learn:

When someone is scared or deep in shock, they’re not really hearing your words — they’re only reacting to their pain.

It taught me that Fear or Pain blinds.

That helping people — in business, life, or anywhere — requires patience with their confusion.

Sometimes people reject you not because you’re wrong, but because they’re scared. That moment, instead of: “How do I make them understand?”

Ask “Am I brave enough to stand there, quiet, while they figure it out?”

And I think that’s where wisdom begins —

18 years since, I’m still learning to send clearer signals🚦

P.S: This pattern exists in AI too.

In machine learning, AI models get noisy training data. when the signal is distorted or mislabelled, like when fear labels a ‘helper’ as a ‘threat’.

AI corrects this gap using something called the ‘loss function’ — it measures the difference between prediction and reality; then learns to adjust.

But humans?

We carry mislabeled data for years.

The difference?

AI gets thousands of training examples to correct the pattern. We sometimes get just one moment — and we choose whether to update our model or harden our bias. 😉

That’s what I told the 7-year-old:

‘Your friend might be scared of something. Give them time. Keep being kind.’ 💖

#SimpleSecrets #Leadership #EmotionalIntelligence #AI | Ei4AiBooks | Edited with AI Assistants

Smiles,

Senthil Chidambaram